Ethan and I have been seeing a counselor and have started taking our girls. This lady is wonderful. The first time we went to see her was the Monday after Kambers accident. She was there to comfort us, give us some things to look out for, and advice in helping us deal with the traumatic loss of Kamber. We have since taken our girls to her and they enjoy there time getting to talk about Kamber and there concerns. Our counselor told us that 80 % of marriages fall apart after the loss of a child. That absolutely blew me away. That is a huge amount of marriages falling apart.Ethan and I said its not happening to us, we are determined not to let it pull us apart. When you are first going through the beginning stages it feels like nothing could ever pull you apart. Now we are 6 weeks into this roller coaster and we can see how this might happen. Ethan and I are truely doing great and we are closer than ever, but we are starting to see that the healing with this ordeal happens at different stages. Life does go on and we can't always be present when the other is struggling. This makes it hard and I feel that at times he is doing better than I am and vise versa.We are to make a new normal and I know that is what we need to do to survive and to keep our family together. A lot of times this makes me so upset. I shouldn't have to be doing this in the first place. I shouldn't have to make a new normal, I want my old normal back when Kamber was in it. It just stinks that this is how life is sometimes. So we see hard things present themselves and it is not just mourning the loss of Kamber, it is constant work to keep our family together. Something that every marriage goes through, but now there is a little twist involved to make it a little harder. Thank goodness for the gospel and a great husband that I know loves me and our sweet little girls. We can and will endure the hardest trial that has been set before us. The statistics are not something that will be part of our future. The Larsens are an Eternal Family!
2 comments:
I think that it is awesome for your family to go to counseling. Sometimes it is just nice to have them there to bring up these statistics and other possible issues, so that you can watch for things and not be a part of that 80%. You guys are awesome! Like you say, thank heavens for the gospel. It brings strength.
Jen, I heard about Kamber's blog from my sister and I have to tell you that I read it every day. I am so thankful for you opening up your heart to share with everyone that reads it. Every time you bear your testimony about the Gospel and Eternal Families I can feel that it is true. I am so glad that you and Ethan are so close and are determined to not be part of the statistic. I only met Kamber a couple of times. She is such a wonderful girl. Your family is constantly in my prayers.
Oh and I put a link to Kamber's blog on mine with hopes that others will be able to read it and be touched as well. I hope that is okay.
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