Monday, September 22, 2008
Evaluation
Losing a loved one I think definitely makes you evaluated your life. I feel you find who is really there for you because they care and who is there for you for themselves. I am finding I need positive people in my life because that is what I am striving for myself. I'm not perfect, but I can say it is something I work for everyday. I need to serve others, I need to be more uplifting, I need to be kind, and I need to be happy. These are things I need to be doing so I pose these questions : Are you trying to do service? Are you kind? Are you happy? Do you uplift others? Do others in your life uplift you? These are all questions I have asked myself. I have started filtering through my life and doing what is best for me and my family. Many might see it as selfish, but I see it as surviving. You might see yourself asking the same questions. I feel answering these questions in your own life can only change it for the better. The little things in life really don't matter , but the ones that influence your core beliefs and your being are worth fighting for. I feel this blog is one way for me to be uplifted and for me to strive and uplift others. If I can help one person today then it is worth it. I appreciate all the sweet comments and uplifting words. Thanks for helping me through this challenge you have just done your service and have uplift one person today :)
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Jen,
You couldn't be more right. I think so many times we have a trial we turn inward and forget others, yet the way to feel the best is to look outward and serve. Your blog is a great service! Now - how about that triathlon?!!!! Let's train baby!
Today was a fun work out- perfect chats and just great company. I think this training or at least this schedule is going to be amazing for you. I toiled with finding a good median for myself too for a few years. I felt 'selfish' taking too much time on myself. Boy was I wrong. I think taking time out on a daily basis like this is theraputic and like you said...the best way to 'survive' at this point. Good for you...keep going girl. Can't wait for our killer classes!
Jenn, I think you are so very strong. I admire you for all you have done, and have said. I will tell you this, you have had a ton of friends and family come together to try their hardest to be there for you through this very difficult time. Eventhough most of the time we wonder if there is anything we can do or say to help, I think you are helping us more than we are you. You are a very special person and Im greatful you married my brother. Love Candi
Jen,
To be honest I read all your posts but I am always at a loss of what to say. I have thought about reading other people’s comments but I feel they are written for you, so I don't.
Anyway I guess today I just wanted to let you know how proud I am of you. You are going through a trial no one could ever wish upon another. But you are surviving and even starting to thrive. You are using your blog in such a special way that allows you to ponder your life. I think pondering does amazing things for us. It allows us to keep our priorities in check, to learn from the spirit as it whispers direction in our lives, and I am learning from you, that pondering helps us to heal. I do not ponder enough.
Today I went back and read all of last weeks postings because I had been out of town. You have touched my heart so much as you grapple with how to make a new norm. I don’t know if it is something that would help but I have one idea for making the transition from Kamber’s to Brookie’s room. Go through Kambers things and write down all the memories you have related to the special toys and other belongings. That way even if new memories are made with Brookie you will never forget those with Kamber. Then choose a few that you would just feel better keeping as Kambers. Have Ethan build you some shelves and make a wall of memories. Use pictures along with the items you have chosen so that when you need some Kamber time it will be their waiting. An uplifting scripture or vinyl lettering may also be helpful as there will be many days in the future you will turn to this wall in both heartache and joy.
I also wanted to share with you a talk in church I heard a few years ago. It was on the word “Succor,” the man said to that as you read the scriptures replace the word succor with the phrase “run to you.” I can’t remember specific scriptures or talks that he used but his message was for us to build a picture in our minds of the Savior RUNNING to us in our time of need. Picking us up, comforting, and helping us continue to move forward. I tried to search it out on the church web site and here is what I found.
1. Alma 7: 12
12 And he will take upon him adeath, that he may bloose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to csuccor his people according to their infirmities.
Grief
Grief, the sense of suffering that accompanies loss, is a common part of mortality as we lose loved ones or experience other tragedies. Because Jesus Christ has suffered the pains and afflictions of all mankind, we can be comforted and healed as we pray to the Father in His name and rely upon His Atonement.
Additional Information
While serving as Presiding Bishop of the Church, Elder Merrill J. Bateman taught:
"Just as the lame man at the pool of Bethesda needed someone stronger than himself to be healed (see John 5:1–9), so we are dependent on the miracles of Christ's atonement if our souls are to be made whole from grief, sorrow, and sin. If grieving parents and loved ones have faith in the Savior and his plan, death's sting is softened as Jesus bears the believers' grief and comforts them through the Holy Spirit. Through Christ, broken hearts are mended and peace replaces anxiety and sorrow. . . . As Isaiah stated concerning the Savior, 'Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: . . . And with his stripes we are healed' (Isaiah 53:4–5).
"The prophet Alma also spoke of Christ's healing power as he taught the Gideonites. Referring to Christ, Alma stated that he would go forth 'suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people. . . . And he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, . . . that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people' (Alma 7:11–12). Whatever the source of pain, Jesus understands and can heal the spirit as well as the body" ("The Power to Heal from Within," Ensign, May 1995, 13–14).
Church Magazine Articles
• "Peace, Hope, and Direction"
Patricia P. Pinegar, Ensign, Nov. 1999, 67–68
Let us rejoice in the blessings of peace, hope, and direction, blessings that so many of our Father's children do not enjoy.
• "Carrying On"
Janna Nielsen, New Era, Oct. 1997, 12–15
Even though their father's gone, Beverly and Amber still work hard to make their papa proud.
• "Where to Look"
Kristen Weaver, New Era, Feb. 1997, 9
I needed comfort. Where I found it was no surprise.
• "The Power to Heal from Within"
Merrill J. Bateman, Ensign, May 1995, 13–14
As part of his redeeming power, Jesus can remove the sting of death or restore the spiritual health of a struggling soul.
I have yet to read the talks attached but I plan to do so. Hopefully something here will be helpful to you. Just the image he painted for me of the Savior RUNNING to me, picking me up, mourning with me, then lifting up my spirit, and helping me to continue on, has changed my life and my relationship with the Savior.
Thank you for being such an inspiration to all of us and for reaching outside of yourself during an hour of great peril in your life and lifting those around you.
Please help me to know how to be a better friend. I struggle to know what is helpful. I love you.
Celinda
Jen, I just needed to thank you for this post. You said a couple of things that enlightened me and helped in regards to a struggle I am dealing with right now. Thank you. I hope you had a good day today. Happy b-day to Kylie! I still think of Kylie as being Sunbeam age! :) They grow up so fast.
Crissie
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