As I was putting my girls to bed I walked past Kambers room. I still have not put Brookie there, but feel I soon will. I looked into her room and just stared at her bed with no child in it. A sweet little girl with beautiful blond hair should be in there sound asleep, but it is empty. I just looked on remembering what she looked like as I would watch her sleep snuggled with her blanket. I loved checking on her each night. I would kiss her and tell her how much I loved her even though she was fast asleep. Do you know what it is like to look into an empty room where your child once played and laid her sweet head down to sleep? Do you understand the pain that it causes a mom not to hold their child anymore? What about the thought that the last kiss you gave your child you had to walk away knowing you will not get to do that again for a long time? These were my thoughts last night, does anyone truly understand how much it really does hurt? The answer is no, not till you have been there. What about when your children that are still alive and they are sad about their sister that can't come back no matter how much they want her to, watching their tears and knowing there is nothing you can say to change the outcome. I do the best I can and hold them and reassure them that daddy and I love them and the Kamber loves them. They will get to be with her again, but it is hard to explain why it has to be a long time.
These are my thoughts, these are my feelings. Does anyone really understand? YES, Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ totally understand, moms that lose their children totally understand. I am grateful for family and friends that stand by my side trying to ease the pain and I have to say they definitely help. There is no way I could make it through with out them. I know I can't be there for them the way I would like and that things are a little different, but through it all they are so understanding. Thanks to all of you for just being by my side even though you don't understand all the true emotions of how I really feel. Thanks for not turning and walking away.
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I don't know what to say right now. I am sobbing reading your last few posts. My heart is breaking for you. I CAN'T imagine what you are going through. I try to imagine and it just hurts TOO bad, then I cry more because YOU have to go through this. Why can't we take the pain away for you? Why can't you heal your other daughter's hearts? The pain is immense. How do you put one foot in front of the other? How do you even do your dishes? Life seems to stop.
I wish I had encouraging words this time, but I am just hurting for you right now. I am so sorry for your hurt. I am sure there are so many that want to take the hurt away from you. But all we can do is EASE it for you. I don't even know you, but will say an extra prayer for you today. My heart has swelled for you. Take care of yourself on days like this. Don't run farther than you have strength.
Oh Jen. I read your posts and sometimes stuggle with what to say. I start a comment and then erase it, start it again and then erase it. I cry and my heart aches for you but you are absolutely right. No one knows what you are going through but our Heavenly Father and our brother Jesus Christ. That in and of itself is a special connection that you have with them.
We know (and were reminded again at conference) that we knew of the trials that we would face here on earth. We agreed to them and still wanted to come to earth.
I often think that a mother who loses a child must of had such a tremendous love and connection with that child in Heaven that they both agreed to the trial knowing that there love was strong enough and they would be reuinted again in heaven. I often think that infact their love, connection and relationship might have been even stronger than others due to the fact that they both willingly accepted it and still wanted to come to earth knowing that they would only be together on earth for a short time, but eternities there after. I'm sure that you and Kamber were this way. (This is Sarah gospel and thoughts.)
I am here for you and I love you. I don't want you to hurt and it hurts me even more knowing that I feel so helpless sometimes.
Set small goals for yourself and relish in the accomplishments of the progress that you make. Life can be like running a marathon, if you don't slowly pace yourself you will get burnt out. Especially at this time in your life when you are fragile.
With tears streaming down my face...I want you to know I how much we love you.
I am sorry it hurts so bad today.
I know with all my heart you will be with your sweat girl again.
I will pray that you will have peace today.
I don't think anyone can understand. And however you are dealing with this loss is the right way. However anyone deals with such a loss, I feel is the right way. You are amazing. I am sorry that there is nothing to do to help ease the pain, if we could we would.
Oh, Jen!! You're absolutely right. I don't know what you are feeling. I do know though that you are amazing and you're doing it!! You may be struggling, but you're doing it. You're taking care of your girls; loving them, holding them, reassuring them. You're taking care of your sweet husband, helping him, talking with him, holding him. You seem to have it together whenever I see you!! I don't know where you get your strength, but I feel it when I am around you.
Don't do it alone. You can't do it alone. When it seems too much to bear, get on your knees. Only your Father in Heaven and Savior, Jesus Christ, can comfort you and all you have to endure. They love you and they know how broken your heart is.
Remember that I still pray for you every sinle day!! I haven't forgotten you or how much you are suffering. Kamber's picture is still up on our fridge and framed in our room. We haven't forgotten her or the suffering of your family!! We love you and think of you often. Hang in there!! Keep doing it, you're doing a great job!!
I forgot to tell you how awesome the molding of your hands are. What a special way to remember your little angel!
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