I received a phone call from a long time friend of mine this week. She left me a message to call her back as soon as possible and I could hear in her voice that something was wrong. I called her back immediately and with a quivered voice she told me about her friend that lost a little boy to a drowning this week. She was devastated about her friend and so mad knowing there was nothing she could do to take away the pain. One thing that she said that stuck out to me was WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE? I don't have the answer to that question. It would be nice if bad things only happened to bad people, but they don't.
My heart broke all over again knowing what this family was going through. Not even I who has been through this not long ago is able to do anything to take away the pain for this family. All I can do is be there for her and listen and validate feelings if she chooses to confide in me.
All I know is that Heavenly Father has a plan for each one of us. Sometimes he allows things to happen and when it is something as devastating as losing a child it is hard to accept. I use to think after losing my dad that if I prayed hard enough everyday that nothing would happen to my family that the prayer would be answered and no one else would be taken from me before it was time, assuming that everyone's time should be when we are all really old. I also thought if I made sure I went to church every week, and did everything the prophets ask of us my family would be safe. That is part of what was shattered the day Kamber died. I realized it didn't matter how good of a person you are, Bad things happen to good people.
I now look back and see the growth. I don't have such a childish way of following the gospel. The guilt of not being perfect doesn't ride on my shoulders like it did before. I know I am here to learn and grow and sometimes it will be a devastation that we will learn from. I haven't conquered this trial yet and somedays I still fight everything I believe. Turning to Christ and Heavenly Father has never been so hard and easy at the same time. I just have to have faith that this is how its to be and everything will be okay at the end.
Bad things happen to good people and I don't fully understand why, but I know we have to find a way to keep putting one foot in front of the other as hard as that might be. Please pray for this family that they will feel Heavenly Fathers love and peace.
Love,
Jen
4 comments:
Thank you for this post. We have family friends who recently lost a daughter and she is asking all the same questions. I appreciate your testimony.
Jen, you know what I find is hard ? Even though I have now lost a child and a parent as well, I still have a hard time finding the RIGHT WORDS to say to people in my exact position. Isn't that weird ? I mean, I have a much better understanding of what others go through now, but it's amazing to me how it can still be hard to find the right words to say.
And I agree, I have no answer to that question. I wish I did though. So sorry to hear about that family and their little boy.
My thoughts and prayers go out to that family. Thanks for posting this, it help me move forward even though at times it is hard to do that.
yes, bad things do happen to good people...so much of that I don't understand. I can't make sense of it myself in my own life. My heart is broken for this family...no parent should EVER have to bury their child! I am so very sorry!
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